“Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also harder to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental illness increases the burden: it is easier to say my tooth is aching than to say my heart is broken. – C. S. Lewis
How is everyone feeling? Are you critical and demeaning towards yourself? Are you showing up and being present? Do you feel like you are enough?
If you are operating from a placed of emptiness, it’s time to practice self-care! Silence your phone and engage in activities that will help relax or give you a sense of peace and happiness. I created the illustration below to show how self-care provides nutrients to your body. It strengthens and allows you to become more resilient when managing life stressors.
I added therapy as a self-care practice because I honestly believe it is necessary. In my heart, I wish it was required (especially for individuals working in the helping field) as part of the course work in college. We enter adulthood with so much confusion about who we are and what we want out of life. Societal pressures can easily cause feelings of worthlessness, despair, anxiety, and stress. Therapy is a great tool that can help you unpack all of those emotions and create a life you truly desire.
If I went solely went off of what I saw on television and social media, I probably would be afraid to seek therapy. It’s like, you know that you are not “crazy” and you have faith in God. But you also know something is off. Therapy is for you, me, or anyone else who is seeking change in their life. You have 45-60 minutes of uninterrupted-undivided time to only focus on YOU! No judgement. Show-up as your authentic self and be ready to receive acceptance.
So, is it that easy? Honestly, yes and no. There is a level of difficulty to disclose your innermost secrets to a stranger. Especially when you are taught to keep all family secrets at home. You are trying to unlearn behaviors that have been drilled in you since you are a child. Transparency and honesty are key — No honesty = No progress. The results of therapy are based upon how much up put into it. If you are open, you will leave with a sense of empowerment and self-awareness.
But what about the cost? Like, most things in life (especially if it’s worth it) comes with some kind of cost. However, employers recognize how their employees’ mental health directly affects their attendance, work performance, and physical health. Many employers offer Employee Assistance Program (EAP Services). It’s a confidential no-cost counselling service to assist you with managing stress, relationships, workplace concerns, family issues, substance abuse, and more. Sessions are CONFIDENTIAL. No information is provided to your employer unless you pose a threat to someone in your workplace.
What if you don’t have health insurance? Don’t give up hope! Many therapists offer sessions on a sliding scale (based upon your income). Also, your local mental health agency (Community Services Board) may provide services for free or at a low cost.
Finding the right therapist may take a couple of attempts. If you don’t mesh with the first therapist? Cool, keep looking. That is NOT a reason to give up. Also, it may take more than one session to determine if the therapist is right for you.
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This week’s resources will highlight mental health services. For those who are struggling with maintaining mental health, know you are not alone and their places, you can go for help.